I felt I should publish some thoughts I have shared at Wellspring church since returning from Bolivia. Here is the first talk, delivered in May 2009.
Young Kids, Tough Lives
I began by outlining some of the more difficult circumstances encountered by the children I met in Bolivia.
Viviana
Viviana grew up in the Bolivian jungle. She was orphaned at 3, and survived the next 3 years on hand-outs, sleeping in different houses and huts. At age 6, she fell (or was pushed) backwards into a fire, and received burns to 60% of her body.
She spent up to 36 hours alone after the incident – a reflection of life in the jungle. By the grace of God a missionary pilot visited the village around this time and was able to transport Viviana to the city of Cochabamba. The village remains inaccessible by road.
In Cochabamba, Viviana was cared for by Mike and Bonnie Timmer who were developing an orphanage ministry in the city. The Timmers provided Viviana with the treatment she needed, including physical therapy 3 times a week, and operations to help Viviana’s body to function and grow without complication. Viviana found her place in the first Timmer orphanage and has grown and matured there in the loving care of her adopted parents Marcelino and Sofia.
All who know Viviana will tell of her contagious giggling, and her strength of character. Even during visits to hospital Viviana omits a zest for life, distilled in her by her loving and merciful Father.
Rene
Rene suffered abuse in the home. He lives with scarring on his wrists, arms and chest from being tortured with hot knives, and lit matches thrown against his skin wet from alcohol.
Rene lives with missionaries Peter and Delia in Tiquipaya. In a house of 29 children Rene may well be the most active. He has a curious interest in household happenings and is often seen bopping and jiving, with or without backing music. He is fun-loving and very content in his new home environment.
These days Rene’s issues relate mainly to his education, and more specifically his ability to learn. Rene has been cleared to enter grade 3 but cannot write his own name.
Vague attempts for custody of Rene by his aunt (whose own son has a nail in his head) have concerned those that wish to protect him from harm. The aunt’s legal team and even the mayor have defended his family, claiming the abuse suffered is just part of the Bolivian culture.
In the short-term, Rene’s protection is assured.
Moises
Another victim of abuse in the home, Moises has a 2 inch dent in his head after being hit with a shovel by his father during a psychotic episode. One can only imagine the force needed to impact a human skull in this way. By the grace of God, Moises is alive with no outward evidence of brain damage or lasting trauma.
While many kids are able to visit family members during the Christmas holidays and gain exposure to the real world, Moises and Rene cannot.
Peter and Delia have invested in Moises by helping him to learn a trade which will help him to gain steady employment when his schooling is finished.
Milenka
Milenka was picked up by a security man after wandering from her glue-sniffing mother around 10pm one evening.
She loves to play and have fun, with a cute toothless smile and a mischievous streak. She can now grow in a loving family under the provision of Peter and Delia.
Elisabeth
Little Elisabeth was left in a market with a small bag of possessions and told to wait there. Her mother did not return.
Elisabeth has some problems to overcome. During my stay Elisabeth was very disobedient, doing the exact opposite of everything she was asked to do. She would wander constantly, and harshly discipline the household dogs.
Peter and Delia have witnessed some change in her character, forgetting for a moment the time Elisabeth placed all of Peter’s cards and important documents in the fireplace. In time Elisabeth will adjust to her new life under the guidance of her adopted brothers and sisters.
Zenobia
Zenobia is a quiet, loving girl who would constantly seek hugs and assurance. She has a deep sadness in her eyes. She has learning difficulties, and on occasion, through frustration would bang her head against a brick wall until her forehead began bleeding.
Through the Navidad en Bolivia program, Peter and Delia were able to organise a private tutor for the 4 children who needed the most help. Among these were Zenobia and Rene.
General Observations:
Some general thoughts about the orphaned and abandoned children I worked with in Bolivia:
- They look out for each other.
- Responsibility isn’t taken easily. While a natural household order sees the older children caring for the young, responsibility is an uncomfortable topic.
- Many are easily distracted, and have concentration problems.
- By default, hygiene is poor, but can be learned.
- Some have more bizarre traits as a result of the difficult lives they lead. e.g. an older girl would hide her unopened Christmas gifts until she had absolute privacy. Bed wetting was a problem for a couple of children.
- To share a meal with 30 abandoned children is an amazing experience. Wherever you look in the room there is a parent-less child who knows little or nothing of the gift of a stable family upbringing that many of us have enjoyed.
- The children are a reflection of society – of alcoholism, corruption, and abuse. When they are taken in, they exhibit as much hope as their desperate, lost parents.
- God is at work in all of the children I met. You can see His work in each child’s ability to cope, to embrace change and to redefine circumstance.
Q & A
After speaking about the children, I wanted to cover some of the written questions I received from the Wellspring community several weeks earlier.
What did the children teach you about Jesus in an unexpected way?
In these children you see that through all the misery and trauma, physical and psychological abuse, the human heart can still be changed through God’s love for them.
Even in Australia we see that children are more accepting of change… but the characteristics of our fallen world remain constant. We are all forced to rationalise and respond to many forms of evil, children and adults alike. So to see children exposed, then adapting and shaping new lives, is a reflection of God’s love and absolute power and control.
Was it difficult to be a missionary and share God’s word and his son with a language barrier?
Yes, but working with kids is easier – us gringos can utilise more creative outlets for communication. Play-time is fun, and effective for teaching instruction and discipline e.g. soccer, team activities, games in the park.
On my first visit to a Spanish speaking country I felt it would be quite difficult to mentor young adults. I did not have the vocabulary to speak into their lives, and chose to invest in the younger children. If I were to return I would attempt to improve my spanish so that conversation with adults would not be inhibited by a language barrier.
You went to help and serve – what moments did you feel powerless to help?
Being foreigners, I feel there is a limit to how much we can (and should) do pastorally in countries like Bolivia. The best people to nurture and grow Bolivian communities spiritually are the Bolivians.
So there were many times when we felt we couldn’t help.
Although we are outsiders, we have much to offer. Some of these things include:
- Training and equipping nationals to contribute in ministry and community-building activities;
- Sharing God’s love, supporting and encouraging nationals in their journey;
- Developing infrastructure and facilities;
- Leading by example on matters of hygiene, self-worth, respect and love for others, and living with a servant heart;
- Mentoring and supporting nationals to serve their own people pastorally.
Stay tuned for the second installment in the Unpacking Bolivia series.